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You know the stats that most businesses fail and yet for every business that fails 10 others are started. Right?

I believe that far fewer businesses would fail if entrepreneurs would ensure that they have the mindset or inner game to grow their business with confidence. It takes more than having the perfect business plan on paper and marketing strategy. In fact, it takes the alignment of 3 mindsets.

The inner game is often the last place entrepreneurs look when they experience challenges in their business. So here’s your opportunity to explore that now with me.

Which of these scenarios apply to you?

  • Working 7 days a week
  • Not getting the results you want
  • Heading for burn-out
  • Feeling overwhelmed juggling business, clients, family, etc.
  • Feeling alone with nobody to talk to
  • Not living the lifestyle you went into business for in the first place
  • Growing too fast and can’t deliver
  • No work-life balance
  • Anxious about not being good enough
  • Comparing yourself to your peers
  • Fear of failure or success
  • Changing direction often
  • Not getting high-paying clients
  • Etc.

Of course what we all want as entrepreneurs is to have unlimited clients, grow our business with ease, make a difference, make loads of money and enjoy a lifestyle of freedom, fun, joy and abundance.

Is that too much to ask? Hell no! It is indeed possible if you have the inner game to get you there. Yes the key to business lifestyle and financial freedom is your mindset. It first has to happen inside you before it can be visible in your life.

Would you believe me if I tell you that the challenges or bliss in business you experience is due to your inner game?

Well this is indeed a fact and if your business is not performing the way you want it to, then your inner game is the first place you need to examine.

Mahatma Gandhi explained it so well:

“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”

I’ve always had it that you can have a thought that you don’t believe. For example, I can have a thought that the sky is yellow, but I don’t believe it. A belief is a confirmed thought – a thought that you said yes to.

So when I saw Gandhi’s quote of “Your beliefs become your thoughts”, it got me thinking and then I realized that those thoughts that we have over and over again are actually our beliefs.

This is your inner game. The thoughts about your self – the self-talk that goes on in the back of your mind. Then you have thoughts about your capabilities, your clients, suppliers, cash flow, etc.

You see what you think about and observe on the movie in your mind with emotion, you create. It becomes real. As you think the signal goes out and the feeling brings the experience back.

What you need to become aware of are the thoughts that you repeat everyday. Are the thoughts that you repeat every day making your business and life a party or not?

If not, then you are effectively living in the past, experiencing it again in the present and projecting that to create your future, because these thoughts become self-fulfilling prophecies.

We have about 60 000 thoughts every day. If you have the same thoughts and doing the same things, seeing the same people, talking about the same things, having the exact same routine, then you are living in the past.

As humans we are creatures of habit. It is true that the habits you have now, will only get you what you are getting now. Just one thing to add to Gandhi’s insight is that as you think you feel and as you feel you think and you take action depending how you feel.

Here’s an exercise for you:

Make a list of your habits and examine backwards how your actions are a result of your feelings, words and thoughts:

  • What do you habitually do every day?
  • How do you feel most of the time?
  • What do you say to yourself and to others?
  • What do you think about?
  • What do you become aware of in terms of how your inner game reflects in your habits and the results you get?

Fortunately changing your inner game is easy as long as you are committed to it.

Dina Marais

The author Dina Marais

I am a business and personal transformation coach, speaker and #1International Bestselling Author. I work with successful women entrepreneurs including coaches, authors, speakers and creatives who struggle with self-doubt and the anxiety that goes with it, preventing them from shining their light fully. I help them to transform their self-doubt into unconditional self-worth and awaken their personal power so that they can lead from their heart. My home-study program Reset Your Destiny facilitates this transformational journey with great success as is evident by the praise it gets. My brand of Queen of Your Heart Entrepreneur encapsulates this transformation further representing authentic self-leadership and a deep spiritual connection. I am passionate about women falling in love with themselves to awaken their power and show up in a much bigger way in life and business. This has also been my own story and as a co-author with 20 other phenomenal women worldwide of the book Love Unboxed by Placida Acheru, I focus on self-love and how it affected my life and marriage. A must read by every woman, this anthology aims to inspire women who find themselves in detrimental circumstances by the real and raw love journeys of trauma and triumph of these women. Most of these stories have been told for the first time, including my own. On a personal level I am happily married, have been for 34 years. We have 3 amazing children and are blessed with overflowing love in our family. We live in Stanford, a small town (it doesn't even have a traffic light!) about two hours from Cape Town, South Africa. For fun I love to socialise (will never say no to lunch or dinner with friends), paint, do yoga and spend time in nature. A book is never far from me. I love writing and am busy with my next book project, hopefully to be completed soon.

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