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November 2017

Language of Love

10 Skills The Best Long-Term Partners Have MASTERED

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What makes a long-term relationship work and why are so many fragile? A good place to start is to look at people who have made their relationships work over a long period of time. We can’t know on that very day we tie the know that we are going to stay happy and weather the storms ahead, which is why so many couples today are terrified of commitment.

I have been happily married for almost 29 years and in reality when I was a young innocent 20 year old I could never really have predicted what I have now, but what is very interesting is some of the qualities I am about to share with you below Ian and I both saw in each other back then.

Have you ever been around people who have been happily married for most of their lives and noticed how they have a real look of admiration for each other, how they ‘share’ their smiles and they almost finish each other’s sentences? They will have been through the greatest of challenges whilst also sharing life’s happiest moments.

Almost all of us who chooses to get married or to be with a partner for the long term will want to reach old age and be so glad we made the right choice. We must ask ourselves what is it these couples have, what is it they do, what is it they feel – what makes a long-term relationship happy?

These couples have firstly made a good choice in ‘choosing’ their partner and have developed the skill of mastering a healthy long-term relationship. Couples who are who are honest and reliable, whilst being able to face huge challenges and say, ‘Let’s work this out’ are some key ingredients. Being flexible without trying to predict the future really helps and having the same core values about children, religion, money and sex and not seeing divorce, as an option is fundamental. Happy marriages aren’t always happy and that’s ok.

Romantic love can be kept alive and is very much part of long-term happy relationships; it doesn’t have to slip into a sort of companionship that many of us believe is the case.

 

  • I believe we all crave to be emotionally loved romantically and to keep this going we need to keep ‘falling in love’, reducing stress, anxiety and promoting the feel good factor – basically the more we focus on this, the more we can create the feelings.
  • Romantic love, those early stages of ‘falling in love’, is totally free from craving and obsession and not only does it create that special bond between the two of you it also raises your self- esteem and your general well being.

 

Some of the skills long-term partners have mastered –

  1. Intense arguments or long periods of silence are not problems in themselves, which many of us focus on; it is the ability to resolve these differences. This experience that creates a deeper level of understanding between couples.
  2. When we talk about being able to effectively communicate we are talking about listening to understand, not getting ready for your reply whilst the other person is talking. Take the time to give your partner your total attention when they have something to say.
  3. Treating each other with respect from day one will become part of your relationship makeup – and this means having respect for you first.
  4. Long-term partners keep their marriage alive and interesting – they indulge in each other’s passions, they continually cultivate their intimacy and they spend quality time together.
  5. Love grows; it doesn’t stand still so being flexible is key here, as your relationship will not stand still. You cannot expect to continually do the same old thing day in day out and have a happy relationship. Relationships require effort; interest and excitement to keep the spark alight.
  6. When facing challenges humour is one the elements that really helps couples through these times, along with being flexible, having respect and sticking with it; working it out. When facing a hurdle find common ground together or make a decision to leave it alone.
  7. Having daily rituals really help to keep that bond in place – couples make a point of starting each day with a hug, or holding hands when they walk or enjoying a cup of tea together at the end of the day.
  8. Having trust in every aspect of your life, whether together or apart, being able to discuss everything without fear of what the other person might think or say; this creates vulnerability, an openness that takes your feelings to a deeper level of commitment.
  9. Being friends is really a must to stay together for the long term; being able to turn to your partner for absolutely anything brings a comfort and an appreciation to the relationship. Friendships take time and need nurturing so spend time together regardless of work or the kids.
  10. At the end of the day ask yourself this question – can I live without him/her? I know Ian and I we couldn’t imagine life without each other. Above all the positivity in your marriage must outweigh the negativity for you both to create a happy lasting relationship.

After all these years I still have some wonderful illusions of Ian, some of the time keeping him on that pedestal; we are always looking to create new ideas together whilst we maintain our independence ‘doing our own thing’ – he’s passionate about cars, I love sports and personal development. I truly believe that if we want passion, commitment and fulfillment in a long-term relationship we must first discover this for ourselves in our own hobbies and interests, so we can then invest more time and energy into our partnership for it to be successful.

Bring to your partnership what you’d like to achieve from being together; don’t look to your partner to fulfill your needs, start fulfilling these yourself. We are born to love – can it last for the long-term? What do you think, I’d love to hear from you?

 

I am devoting my life to helping people all over the world with their relationships. Why? Simply because I have transformed every relationship in my entire life and now professionally qualified to help others I have the drive and passion to make it my mission in life. Ladies come and join our closed Facebook group here – ‘Let’s Talk Relationships & Life’ – https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshipsandlife/.

And take our Relationship Quiz today to see where you are right now in your relationship – https://louisearmstrong.clickfunnels.com/relationship-quiz

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Innovation & Business

Easy Money is the Best Money

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Easy Money: What is it?

It is profit that you don’t have to work for? Is it money that flows in without effort?

No, it’s none of that.

It’s even better.

Easy money is the kind of profit that’s made from working with customers who need exactly what you’re offering, who fully appreciate what you’re doing for them, who gladly pay what you’re charging and who tell others about you and your business.

It’s the kind of money that feels like a bonus when you earn it because you’re not only doing what you love, you’re appreciated for it.

And the benefits don’t end there. When you earn easy money, you’re investing in the future of your business. You see, those people are like tonic for your profile. They’re going to bring more customers like themselves into your brand and they’re going to make it more attractive to your ideal customers of the future.

So how can you get your hands on more of this easy money? Follow these guidelines:

  • Know your ideal customer, and work to appeal only to him or her. Trying to appeal to a mass audience will only dilute your message and make it less likely to stick for those who really matter to the future of your brand. You may exclude a few people; however, they weren’t what your brand needed anyway.
  • Maintain focus on the one thing you do the best. It’s that thing you’re better at than all your friends. It’s the thing you enjoyed doing even before you were making money at it. The temptation to branch out in other directions can be strong; however, maintaining that focus will bring people to your brand who want that thing above all else. It will be like brand love at first sight…and for every experience after that.
  • Nurture the loyal relationships you build with your ideal customers. Retaining existing clients is far more cost-effective than acquiring new ones. And the longer you maintain those valuable relationships, the more referrals and word-of-mouth advertising your brand will enjoy.
  • Learn to say no to the wrong customers. There will be people who try to convince you to do something new or to branch out, just because they need it. I can practically guarantee that they’ll end up dissatisfied customers…and you will be a dissatisfied proprietor. They’ll leave bad reviews and taint your brand’s reputation. The money will seem necessary at first, but you’ll soon realise that it was bad money.

Learning to think in terms of Good Money vs. Bad Money will prove to be a huge step forward in your journey to becoming a successful business owner. I think when you get your first significant taste of good money (if you haven’t already), you’ll become captivated by it—not just by the way it makes you feel, but by the subsequent profit it brings.

So get out there; learn to spot that good money and grab it…for the sake of your business and for the sake of the customers you admire.

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