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September 2017

Innovation & Business

Social Networking, to Build a Brand

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Networking, Social Networking, Online Networking, Rubbing Elbows…whatever you call it, you’ve got to have it in order to connect with your ideal customers and to land the types of gigs you’ve been dreaming of.

I don’t care what any professional marketer tells you: you cannot rely solely on ad campaigns to build your business. You’re going to have to make the types of personal connections that leave people feeling good about taking the next step with you and your brand.

Networking isn’t what it used to be.

If you’ve ever been to a stuffy networking event, where all the same people say all the same things and the environment is always uncomfortable, leaving you searching for words and interacting with all the wrong people…then you know that it went through a bad spell. I am happy to say, however, that networking has evolved.

Most networking has moved online, particularly to social media platforms. There are social media pages, of course, but there are also groups, live broadcasting, cross-posting and much more.

Here are some of my tips for making lucrative connections via social networking:

  • Get Specific. Pinpoint those people with whom you’d like to connect (because they are your ideal customer, because they know your ideal customers, or because they are a key influencer with lots of your ideal customers on their list). Follow those people, instead of spraying and praying ad campaigns in the hopes that your target audience will take notice.
  • Join Relevant Groups. Social media groups are great because they’re founded with commonality in mind. Everyone in the group shares some pain, some joy, some obsession or some problem. Find those groups with high concentrations of people who are suffering from the problem you solve or who particularly appreciate the type of work you’re doing.
  • Serve Rather than Sell. Look for talk about pains that you can relieve and pleas for advice that you can [uniquely] give. Offer guidance freely, and maintain a spirit of helpfulness and concern. Point people to other resources. Refer them to experts who can help when you’re not equipped. Avoid selling your product or service unless asked. This may seem counterintuitive at first; however, I believe that you’ll find the relationships you forge will be highly sales-conducive.
  • Offer Value. Very few people will want to connect with you ‘just because.’ Your sparkling personality will rarely be enough. Instead, offer them something they can sink their teeth into…something they can use. Maybe that’s motivation or inspiration. Maybe that’s connection to others they’ve been wanting to connect with. Maybe it’s notoriety or a reputation boost. No matter what you have to offer, make sure it closely aligns with what your ideal customers want.
  • Move out from Behind the Device. Social networking is the wave of the connection future; however, that doesn’t negate the need for in-person networking. Have lunch. Play golf. Attend events. Do all the things you need to do to get your face and your handshake into the days of those who can make the biggest difference to your brand.

Networking—especially social networking—is necessary for international (and sometimes even local) success in the 21st century. Be proactive. Follow leads. Pay close attention to what your ideal customers are doing, where they’re hanging out and with whom they’re connecting…always remembering that the next connection could be the one that leads to your dream client.

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Natural Medicine

My Journey of Bone

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At the beginning of July, on a beautiful hot summer’s day, I slipped down a grassy bank I was walking down. My foot went out from under me, I went up in the air and I put my hand out automatically to break my fall. A shock went up my arm and when I looked at it, I thought I had stepped into a nightmare! My arm was in the most unnatural position and was tingling in a way I had never experienced before. It felt 5 times bigger than my physical body. I curled up into a little ball at the bottom of the bank and felt a sickening dread in the pit of my stomach. In A&E I couldn’t bear to look at the X-ray the hospital took. I was terrified of the consequences and also in a state of deep shock; both physical and mental. I had the presence of mind to do Life Retuning to treat my trauma and fear in my friend’s car as she rushed me to the hospital. This meant that my breathing was normal at least. Just as well as I had to wait to be seen for further emergency treatment. When I was called in, the doctor told me that I had not only compressed the bones but also broken my wrist under high impact. I had to be given a local anaesthetic and gas and air as two doctors literally pulled out my bones from the compression and set them back. I was told I had a clean break and that I would have to go to a different hospital’s Fracture Unit, as I needed to have a cast fitted.

However, when I went for my next appointment, I was told that I did not have a clean break and would need much more than a cast, I actually had a compound fracture that would need surgery. I would have to have manipulation and metal inserted into my bones to make sure they set back properly.

I cannot begin to explain the horror that swept over me in that doctor’s consultation room. Since being a young child, I have always had a deep terror of having metal in my body. In my bones and flesh. As a child, I saw a man who had a metal contraption on his leg which was inserted into his bones and I was stricken with an intense shock. I had also up until now, only had one operation when I was 2 years old. I have to admit that after leaving the hospital, having booked my surgery for 5 days time, I dissolved into a complete mess of terror, horror, despair and hopelessness. I had no idea how I was ever going to actually go through with it.

And now began a deep, powerful and transformative journey for me where I would call back pieces of myself that had been alienated for years. As my bones had shattered, so did my perception of myself. This summer I entered a cocoon; a mirror of the cast covering my arm, I broke down into my constituent substance, echoing the fragments of my wrist that were floating in shattered limbo. The focus becoming smaller and smaller, the centre of the vortex dissolving, annihilating, restructuring and finally rebuilding. Just like a caterpillar which dies to itself and restructures into a glorious new creature, a butterfly. It is one of the greatest mysteries and highest magical transformations of this world. This is the story of my journey and the vital knowing that has come from out of it. I want to share with you the discoveries I made about healing, when the very foundation of our bodies is broken.

As a highly advanced Adept and Facilitator of Universal energy, I was being called on to walk my talk with myself. As the Founder of Life Retuning, having worked around the globe, to release over 1000 clients from their fears, anxieties and challenges, I was now faced with a deep, long term set of fears about surgery and the reality of having metal in my body and I had 5 days to turn it around so that I could go through with the operation. There was no backing out, nowhere to run, no excuses to make, just the real, raw inevitability of it. I am no wuss, I have a lot of courage but this felt like a mountain that was way too far to climb.

I spent those 5 days in a recurring cycle of dread, release and exhaustion. Every time a new aspect of my fears came up, I applied my Retuning method, felt peace and calm flood my body and mind and then a tremendous exhaustion would overwhelm me as my system let go of low vibrational frequencies that I had been carrying for years. Then the cycle would begin again as my mind found another aspect of my fears to throw up and engulf me. By the end of the 4th day I felt so exhausted with the ceaseless intensity, I couldn’t move and I had nothing left in me to deal with any more. I felt a total numbness about everything, but I was aware of my huge achievement. Then a message came to me from Universal energy, making me aware that I would be kept in a trance state throughout the whole time I was in hospital. That is exactly what happened. I was hardly aware of anything consciously, from the early morning when I went in, until I woke up from the general anaesthetic much later, in the hospital bed afterwards.

Wires in the Bone

When I was initially told by the surgeon that I had a compound fracture of the wrist, he told me I could let it heal naturally and risk it being deformed for the rest of my life, or that I could have metal screws and a plate inserted to strengthen it. Beyond the intrinsic fear I have already described, my intuition was telling me that permanent metal in my body was a definite ‘no’. So I asked if there was any other option and he told me that I could have temporary wires inserted into my bones which would guide them to knit together in the right place. This is the option I chose. I am very glad that I asked the question because otherwise it would not have been offered. Over the next few weeks I met many people who had broken bones and had permanent metal in their bodies. Almost every single one of them told me that they had pain every since.

The Purrfect Remedy

So what can you do with broken bones to help them heal? I had no idea apart from one bit of information that I had read about when I was researching content for one of my Life Retuning courses. I found out that a cat’s purring heals bones. Every species of cat purrs in a frequency range of 25-140 Hz from your little moggy right up to lions and tigers. This is the perfect vibration range to stimulate bones to knit back together. Cats heal themselves with this extraordinary ability and the knock on effect is that if you are injured it works for you too. When I got back home from A&E, my cat Tivvy took one look at me, came and sat by my side and hardly left me alone for the next few weeks. Sure enough, she purred almost continuously.

Many Meetings of Inaction

Having a cast, seems to be a great icebreaker. Because with a broken wrist I couldn’t drive, I found myself sitting at lots of bus stops waiting for the ride and someone always started talking to me. Sometimes, when I was walking, people would actually even cross the road to speak to me! I also found that nearly every time someone would start talking to me they inevitably asked what I had done in order to be wearing a cast. It would turn out that often they were dying to tell me their horror story of their own broken bone disaster. I became curious as to what those people had done to help themselves heal and was astonished to find that the answer was usually, nothing at all! The hospital had given me no advice, except to keep my arm elevated and take pain killers after the surgery. But this is just the start of what you can do to give yourself the maximum chance to heal your bones well, with strength and flexibility.

A Vital Gesture

When I broke my wrist, I was wearing high heel sandals and should never have walked down such a sleep slope in them. I felt stupid and irresponsible. However, I know that the vibrations of anger, regret and embarrassment are powerful blockers of healing. We are not just a single entity, we are made up of cells, organs, parts. Each part of us has its own separate consciousness. I remember a client who had dropped an iron on her foot and for years it would not heal until I Retuned the anger her foot felt. She had not said sorry to it for what she had put it through. It may sound far-fetched but if you do not clear your upsetting feelings about an injury, it will take longer to heal or even may not heal at all. So one of the first things I did was to ask forgiveness of my wrist for having put it through the pain and suffering it had experienced. I cleared all negativity, trauma, shock and self-punishing emotions. I use Power Statements with clients to reinforce and create the right vibration in their energy fields for the changes they want to achieve. Two of the important Power Statements I used for myself were:

I forgive myself for allowing this injury

I release all injury trauma, shock and negative emotions from my system, including frustration, embarrassment, stupidity and regret

The Tone of Bone

As an Adept of Universal energy, I know that everything has a vibrational frequency. Our thoughts, emotions and physical matter…our bodies. I already knew that my cat was a highly evolved natural energy worker. I found it quite ironic that humans were doing nothing about healing their bones and yet a cat, considered by some as a mere animal, was automatically and instinctively giving me exactly the healing I needed. I am sure that if I could have explained to her, she would think humans are completely crazy and probably dumb to not be using a natural resource! I have used specific vibrational frequencies with my clients to accelerate the assimilation of my energy work. I decided it was time to use the same technique on myself. I read from my own energy field exactly what tonal frequency my wrist needed in order to heal. This was a truly fascinating process, as the pattern of tones unfolded. Starting with exactly the range of Hertz that a cat’s purr vibrates in. I did not assume anything, just followed the energetic data. The pattern that emerged gave me an eyeopening window into how the body heals from inside out. The tones were revealed in Hertz; precise notes used for a precise period of minutes. Every time I gave my wrist a specific vibration, my system indicated a rest period before I could use the next tone. The graph above shows the progression of the Hertz of the tones I needed. As you can see, the tones rose each time. From the densest matter which in our bodies is the bone, up through tissue, ligaments, muscles, blood vessels, skin. Each part of us has a specific vibration and my energy field was responding to exactly the healing sound that I needed at each stage. To me this is simply miraculous. To have lived it and used it has given me a deep insight into the very workings of life and the Universe. As the microcosm reflects the macrocosm, this process must be echoed throughout our cosmos.

On Another Note

There is a very ancient instrument that is known for helping to heal bones. It is the Yidaki or Didgeridoo. it is said that the Aborigines have been using it for healing for over 40,000 years and it may well be the oldest recorded instrument of humankind. I had a healing session with a musician friend of mine who has two of them. By this time, I had the wires in my bones and it was a very weird experience. As my friend started playing his Didgeridoo, I feel energy coursing up my arm and I was aware of a subtle sensation. It was a weak humming vibration and suddenly I knew where those wires must be. There was a sympathetic resonance occurring between the sound and the metal. It wasn’t unpleasant, just fascinating. I experienced the power of this ancient instrument and felt the wisdom that had been passed down for eons of generations in a far off land. Never ever underestimate how sound causes the most profound changes in every part of your environment, both internal and external. Nikola Tesla famously said…

’if you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration’

Feeling the Heat

I mentioned that when the surgeon suggested the I should have permanent metal screws and a metal plate inserted into my wrist that my intuition kicked up with a firm ‘no’. I want to tell you about the wisdom of the body and how it asserted itself in a powerful and alarming way. A week after the wires went into my bones, my body started to heat up several times a day and in the night. Now I know what you are thinking, yes, yes, you are a woman, obviously the signs of menopause starting. However, I found that there was something entirely different going on. My energy field revealed that it was the 3 stress hormones that were firing off regularly and added to that, my ‘feel good’ hormones were joining the party! No sex hormones were involved at all. So these were the hormones that were going out of balance every time I experienced the heat:

Cortisol

Adrenalin

Aldosterone

Dopamine

Serotonin

Without fail, when I checked, they would all be balanced and secreting fine and then go haywire whenever the symptoms occurred. I became curious about what could be going on. When I energetically investigated deeper, I discovered that the stress hormones were getting into gear to deal with a foreign invader…namely the wires! My body was following the only processes it knows to get rid of bacteria, virus’, thorns…push it out or heat up and kill it! Only it didn’t know what to do with fixed metal. 

I had this for a whole month until the wires were removed and within a few days I noticed a change in the frequency of the heating up. 6 weeks on and I have hardly any reaction from my body now. It makes me wonder what happens when metal is permanently fixed in our bodies, what deeper implications there are, past the necessity of finding a surgical solution.

Just one week after my cast was removed, I was able to start driving and 3 weeks after it, my wrist is already almost back to full flexibility and function. This is not matching the stories I heard from all those people at the bus stops and on the street. I was told about months and even years of pain, lack of strength, flexibility and movement.

My journey of bone has been a deeply transformative experience. I now know how strong and incredible my body is and I have learned to trust its wisdom. I have also moved a level up in my understanding of how energy plays a part in our lives, from the densest part of us through to the most intangible realms. So even though I would not wish to repeat this summer, I am truly grateful for all that I have learned through this injury and I hope that my learning will be helpful to others.

 

 

Other Healing Bone Remedies

I am listing here the homeopathic and herbal supplements I also took, for your information:

Homeopathic

Symphitum Officianale or bone knit – this is an incredible remedy from the calendula plant. It speeds the knitting together of broken bones and there are many case studies confirming its efficacy.

Ruta Graveolens – a remedy which helps to repair ligaments and tendons.

Arnica Montana – a trauma remedy and is wonderful for healing bruising.

Bellis Perennis – great for deep tissue bruising and swelling after surgery.

Herbal supplements:

Dr. Christopher’s Bone and Tissue Support

Dr. Christopher’s Herbal Calcium

Magnesium –  essential for healthy bones and teeth. Most notably, adequate magnesium is essential for absorption and metabolism of calcium

K2 vitamin – contributes to normal blood clotting and the maintenance of normal bones.

 

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Language of Love

10 Tough Questions To Ask Yourself When Your Relationship Gets Tough

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Many of us have been at the point and you could well be here right now wondering if you should leave the relationship you are in – perhaps you are staying just waiting for things to improve but you’re not actually quite sure how? Communication and lack of affection are two main ingredients that cause issues between couples.

Or perhaps you leave and then are consumed with regret and guilt? Before you make any of these life-changing decisions it might be a good time to ask yourself some questions about you to get clear on some facts. You will then have a much better perspective on the next step. Many of my clients come to me with this exact question – ‘I’m just so unhappy, it’s not working, should I leave or should I put up with the relationship as it is?’

I’d like to share with you a few things that I feel might just resonate with you so you don’t feel so alone and desperate before we go into the questions to ask yourself.

  • We are ALL struggling in some way – even if your friends appear to be ‘on top of the world’ they could well be suffering inside, wealthy people might seem to have it all only to be desperately unhappy behind closed doors. With this in mind notice how you see others, you don’t know what mask they are wearing or what that smile hides.

 

  • Real love is worth working towards – whether that is romantic or personal, we all want to create those loving emotional connections. Love is about connection, not just that physical connection of touch and feel but that subconscious ‘knowing’ you are ‘at one’ with that person. This takes time and grows as your relationship develops. When two people love each other they have a mutual respect, and work through those challenging times together.

 

  • Attraction isn’t what you think – seriously there is NO such thing as a perfect partner so if you are looking right now, STOP. You aren’t perfect and neither is anyone else……so it’s only when two ‘imperfect people’ compliment each other does the relationship work! This took me years to work out until I let go of the ‘needing to be perfect’ as it was totally unachievable. So start with yourself and realise your own imperfections, those parts of you that you really don’t like very much, start to embrace them, learn to love them – they all make up you. It’s at this point you will know what you are looking for in someone.

 

  • However hard you try sometimes the relationship will never work – it is natural and easier for some of us to think in a negative way and some people will always put you down, regardless of what you do or what your capabilities are. These relationships are very unhealthy and you will end up feeling totally held back in your personal growth and your relationship.

 

  • Resentment will only ever hurt you – holding a grudge against someone will hurt you over and over again, no matter how small a grudge it is, it’s like ‘drinking poison and expecting the other person to die’. Make a decision and choose to let these ‘grudges’ go, choose to release them, they are only thoughts and fears they are not part of you so release them.

 

  • Forgiveness is the one thing that will bring you peace – the forgiveness is for you and no one else, choose to forgive, to find peace, to let the anger and resentment go. Choose to stay calm and let that pain go – there are lots of ways of doing this so find a way that works for you.

 

  • Time alone is key for us all – you can be yourself without any pressure or deadlines. So in any relationship, we always need space to discover more of ourselves, to stretch our boundaries and to listen to our own thoughts. Take time out to walk alone, go to the beach, go for a drive, listen to music and just cherish the moments being by yourself.

With much research and helping many couples over the years I have come up with a few questions here that will provoke you into thinking about yourself. After all, we can only change ourselves so it makes sense to place our focus here in the beginning. These questions will allow you to think about what you really want from life.

  1. Am I happy most of the time?

All of us have struggles in our relationships and it is true to say that some challenges make these relationships stronger but if you are spending more time unhappy in your relationship then you should question what is happening. No one should stay ‘quietly’ unhappy – you should discuss this with your partner. Of course, there are always going to be the ‘down times’ but it’s when these take over and become a normal way of life that you have to really ‘grab the bull by the horns’ and face the fact that this isn’t working. Go and voice your words.

  1. Is this relationship bringing out the best in me?

A question few of us ask ourselves and not even quite sure how to answer but it really is imperative to ask yourself if your partner is encouraging you to be the best version of yourself or do they constantly pull you down? Are your needs being met? Are you creating dreams? Does your partner bring out the negative emotions indie of you? Find a quiet space, go inside of yourself and be honest with what you find.

  1. Am I making time for him/her?

Equally, is he/she making time for you? We are all on a roller coaster ride and life gets very busy and we can put our relationships on the back burner as work, sport, friends and socialising takeover. However hectic your life is you always need to make time for each other, ask yourself if you really are?

  1. Have we shared dreams?

If your relationship is heading in a similar direction you will have some shared goals and dreams. If you are totally off course nothing will match. Of course you can have separate dreams but if they don’t intertwine together at some level you will never meet. Every relationship needs a shared dream with a shared passion.

  1. Do I have regrets?

Here I’m not talking about past regret but the future. How will you feel if you are still here in the same situation in one year’s time where nothing has changed? Will you have wished you had done something about yourself? Will you have wished you had moved on? Living with regrets will leave you far more emotionally hurt than leaving an unfulfilled relationship. So ask yourself today if you can make these changes and if not will you be better off making a decision now and not waiting until next year?

  1. How often do I laugh?

Laughter is key in any relationship – it’s the glue that sticks us together during the hard times. Are you laughing more than arguing? Be very honest and ask yourself how many times a week do you laugh together over how many times a week do you argue? It might be a real eye-opener for you. Relationships are not supposed to be a hassle in life and drag you down; they are supposed to uplift you and make you feel good.

  1. What sacrifices am I making right now?

Are you feeling that you are being taken advantage of and ‘used’? Is the relationship feeling more like a burden than a pleasure? Are you constantly giving and receiving nothing or very little back? Healthy relationships are about ‘give and take’ – are you giving too much?

  1. Am I in love with who I want them to be?

So many of us do this. Are you simply waiting for that person to change into the sort of person you want them to be? We convince ourselves that one day they will change and actually be that person if we wait long enough or if we try harder. But unless that person themselves really wants to make any changes – nothing will change. Be honest and tell them the truth…..yes sometimes the truth really hurts but at least you are being honest for both of your sakes.

  1. Do they add meaning to my life?

What is life like without them? Are you happier by yourself? Does your partner make your life more colourful, richer and leave you with a feeling of fulfillment or are you left depleted and zapped of energy?

  1. Would I be better off alone?

The hardest question of all…….and one that may not seem at all clear but one that really needs answering. Now you have faced some realities with the above questions perhaps the time has come to really make a decision by yourself or to seek out a trusted friend or a coach or councilor to guide you through the process of making one of the most important decisions of your life. What changes will you make within your relationship? What are you waiting for?

Every relationship requires hard work and patience and it all starts with you. We all have tough times, we all have times of despair, it’s a normal part of life – it’s during these times we need to really look after ourselves as self-care is paramount.

We need to take time out, pamper ourselves, nurture ourselves and ultimately make sure that we are doing the best we can to work on bettering ourselves and bettering our relationships every day. I hope the above questions have stirred something inside of you – take action now to seek help so you become very clear on that next step with your relationship – probably one of the most important decisions you will ever make in your life.

Take the relationship ‘Loving Spark Quiz’ now and dive a little further to see where you really are in your relationship right now.

Ladies, come & join us in our wonderful caring, nonjudgmental FB group – ‘Let’s Talk Relationships & Life’ – https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshipsandlife/. Can’t wait to meet you

 

 

 

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Innovation & Business

How Big Can You Dream?

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As an events director and a business coach, I’ve learnt to recognise the serious players.

Everyone I speak to always says ‘I’m 100% committed’, ‘I’ll do what ever it takes’, ‘I want to build a multiple 6 figure business’.

Heard it all, seen it, got the t-shirt.

Sad truth is, when I recently went through my contacts on my phone – 80% of the small to medium sized businesses I worked with in my events went under. They’re no longer in business.

And trust me – many had great products. Great customer service. Even a great client base.

What they lacked is one simple ingredient – a ‘No Matter What’ attitude.

It’s the No Matter What that separates the men from the mice.

It’s the No Matter What that helps you find that one extra client you need to make the cash flow this month.

It’s the No Matter What that makes you dust yourself off, forget you failed yesterday and work towards a better tomorrow.

Business can be a mean game, and only the strong can survive. You have to hold on to that dream like your life depends on it – because it does!

So, how big can you dream? Xx

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Health & Beauty

Guilt Does Not Serve You!

08-09-2017 – Guilt Does Not Serve You

REFLECTIONS: GUILT DOES NOT SERVE YOU!

I was chatting to one of my beautiful 1:1 Online clients last night & she was absolutely beating herself up about ‘breaking out’ and eating half a block of chocolate on Saturday.

WHAAAATTTT??!!!

So aside from the fact that she only began her health and fitness evolution 2 weeks ago (and therefore couldn’t possibly have mastered each strategy and process associated with long term health / weight management), it was ONLY half a Kit Kat!!

So let’s try to put a few things into perspective here….. because I know so many women GUILT themselves in GIVING UP ON THEMSELVES…..

1) The total caloric value of the consumed portion of Kit Kat was approximately 250 calories (only).
2) She’d already achieved 12 days of EATING WELL and had successfully reduced her daily caloric intake by over 1000 cals per day…. which still provided a comfortable allowance of approximately 1400 cals per day! (Woohoo – awesome effort)!!
3) She’d also exercised several times during the preceding 2 weeks! (Yay – good work gorgeous)!!

Do YOU think 250 cals is worth throwing the rest of your life away on?? And seriously…. she’d literally ‘guilted’ and ‘shamed’ herself out to such an extent, that she was considering throwing the towel in…. AND her aspirations of learning how to effectively manage her health for the long term!!

#peptalk:

1) Guilt does NOT serve us well!! Effectively it’s a form of punishment…. & punishment is typically used to extinguish undesirable behaviours. The problem with that is, that unless you’re a masochist, you’re unlikely going to continue punishing yourself & therefore you completely give up on wanting to extinguish the ‘undesirable’ behaviours to begin with!

#1 Point Being: It is what it is. It’s done. It can’t be undone. There’s no point investing time and negative emotion on something that you can NOT change.

Straighten that crown of yours Darlin’…. accept it, learn from it and MOVE ON. Tomorrow is a new day with a clean slate!!
2) Punishment can have even greater, unforeseen NEGATIVE impacts!! If we are using guilt as a form of punishment in the hope that we’ll extinguish our ‘undesirable’ behaviours, we may also begin to subconsciously develop self-sabotaging behaviours (to over compensate or ‘pay-back’ for the punishment that we’re giving ourselves). Examples may include (but not limited to): relaxing portion control, maybe having an extra glass of wine each night, perhaps not exercising to the required intensity, potentially making up excuses why you ‘can’t’ exercise or ‘must’ go out for dinner, or ‘have’ to have that second large cappuccino… etc, etc.

#2 Point Being: Punishment is not an effective behaviour modification strategy if the goal is to achieve a long term, sustainable result. Enduring changes in behaviour are better motivated through the reinforcement (praise, reward, encouragement), of ‘desired’ behaviours. Examples may include (but not limited to), focusing on all the days you DID eat well, or all the times you DID exercise!

Straighten that crown of yours Beautiful…. you deserve to feel proud of the AMAZING achievements you’re making on a daily basis!

3) The All-or-Nothing approach is NOT an effective strategy!! If we want to achieve long term, sustainable results in terms of our health / weight management, we need to approach it with a well aligned ‘cognitive compass’. It’s completely unreasonable and unrealistic to think that we’ll never eat chocolate (or whatever our particular little ‘delight’ is) EVER AGAIN. So why do we think that we can ‘never’ enjoy it when we’re still in the early days of our health and fitness evolution?

#3 Point Being: You absolutely CAN NOT deprive yourself of every ‘delight’ you desire. The sooner you learn to understand and appreciate their ‘place’ on your menu and the quicker you learn to proactively manage their consumption (in moderation)…. then the better the opportunity for ‘positive behaviour reinforcement’.

Straighten that crown of yours Gorgeous, it’s time to learn how to ‘proactively manage’…. not just ‘D-I-E-T’!!

So…. the moral of the story??

My 1:1 Online client is feeling a lot better about herself. She’s no longer feeling guilty…. she’s praising herself for all the achievements she’s made thus far (including the loss of 1.5kg)….. AND, she’s now proactively choosing a time, place and appropriate amount of her ‘delight’ to enjoy in moderation!

Perfect!!

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Wisdom & Spirit

The World is Falling Apart – or is it?

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It appears that the world is in chaos. The fires, the floods, the hurricanes, the politics. The hate and violence that appears to be normalizing.

       

 

The repeal of DACA – good, honest, hardworking Americans who happened to not have been born here potentially being deported. The crazy, the insane, the scary. What is going on and how do we stand in it?

The United States of America is being hit hard right now. We are not alone, there are fires, outrageous heat, hurricanes and devastation in other countries as well. Since I am American, I will address our country, but not to the exclusion of other countries who are being battered with nature or human devastation.

Recently we had both the Lunar and two weeks later, the Solar Eclipse, which fascinating enough also only was visible from our country and to most of it. Very curious, you might think. Could it be that we are experiencing the after math of these two spectacular events?  Maybe.

This is a question that was posted to me;

“What’s going on and how can it be fixed? How can believers do something to help?”

Here’s my thought: First and foremost, keep your attention off the drama/trauma and on the Light. Jesus said, “Seek first the kingdom of God.”  Second – if you are in the way of harm – MOVE! Get yourself safe!

There is a story about a man who was trusting God to save him from rising waters. (This is a story, however, it made itself real last week in Houston). The short version of the story is that a boat came by twice, then a helicopter to rescue him, ultimately from the roof. He refused saying God would save him. Finally, he drowned and found himself at the Pearly Gates. He whined to God, why didn’t you save me? God replied, I sent you two boats and a helicopter!

The point being, God isn’t partial to one human over another; God or nature rains (or fires, or floods, or storms) on everyone equally.

Mother Nature is fierce and when she is storming, get out of the way! Keep yourself safe!

There are many theories flying around about Climate Change – isn’t it obvious our climate is changing?! There are theories about some of these storms being man-made or man influenced. At some level, isn’t that obvious also? We are not caring for our earth in a very compassionate and loving way. We are continually contaminating it, taking it for granted and even taking advantage of it. Of course, things are going to happen. (I’m not going to even touch on the man-made weather, but you can google it, if you care to explore another version).

I was asked for spiritual help, so that is what I’m offering.

I believe that humanity is basically good at its core, that we are awakening to Love and light and a new way of living together, in Oneness on the planet. I also believe that everything unlike Love must come up. That is part of what we are experiencing.

With the hatred, the violence. We find ourselves with a leadership that not only condones hatred and violence, but practices it openly. This has granted permission to those who harbor hatred in their consciousness to express it outwardly.

I do not condone hatred or violence in any way shape or form. Yet, as I witness it in the outer, I must look at places within my own consciousness that I’m angry, that I get violent. You should hear my silent rants against the hatred, you’d think I was practicing violence in my own head.

This is all part of the ultimate healing process. We cannot stand for hate or violence at any level and it washes down. We are being called to clear ourselves of hate and of fear.

Remember the bible story of Daniel in the Lion’s Den? Basically, Daniel kept his focus so on his God that the lions’ mouths were closed and he escaped death. Also in the book of Daniel is the story of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego who were thrown into a fiery furnace. Their focus on God kept them from being burned.

We are in fiery furnaces and lion’s dens; so, where do we put our attention? On the drama, trauma? On resisting that which is?

No, we keep our focus on the love that we see, the good that is happening. We don’t bury our heads in the sand, but we don’t give our energy and attention on fear. When we are focused on a greater good, we may be called into action. If you feel the call, take action, but not from fear or resistance to what is.

What is happening? We are being cleansed at a deep level. Just as deep wound needs to be lanced to heal completely, this is happening in our humanity.

Why? Either because we have crazy in charge, which we must remember we voted in. I don’t know how or why, but somehow the crazy has all been voted for. Or we can believe that all this is working together for a greater good.

Romans 8:28, All things work together for good for those who love God.

That does not mean that every event, situation or circumstance is good. It does mean that for those who love God, those who are committed to Love, will find a way to come together for a greater good. Does this mean that disaster won’t strike? No, but when we focus on the good that comes – the connection, the generosity, the community that happens, we find love during it.

Why? I have no clue. It’s crazy making in my mind too. It blows my mind and I can’t even begin to comprehend what we are seeing.

But what to do? Find love, seek love, keep your focus on love. Take a stand for LOVE, do not participate in protests against, only rallies for. Take a stand for kindness, compassion. Do not engage in fear based tactics – no matter what.

Shift your focus from what you see to what you want to see. For what you focus on, you will see more of.

Hold yourself accountable to yourself, and to the awakening of the planet. Trust in the goodness of God/Spirit/Source/ Creation – no matter what.

If you were to create a beautiful garden, you would first need to clear out the weeds, and till the soil. If this is what’s happening on a global scale, so be it.

Trust that you are protected, that you are love and loved; that you will not only survive, but also thrive. Does that mean that you will escape all the crazy, perhaps not, but you will get through it; you will be ok!

I believe we are being called to reassess our values, to recalibrate our lives. Sometimes it looks hard and scary, but that which matters most will remain, will survive, will rise above.

I’ve cleared a few spots in my calendar to support those who are traumatized by current events and are seeking support.

The other great big piece is that we are each, individually and collectively being called to do our own healing workto have our own awakening. That sometimes is the hardest work, but it will pay off! It will bring you great comfort and peace in your own consciousness and your own live. It will also bring clarity about what is yours to do.

When we stand in our Truth, in Love; we are guided as to how to individually participate in the world. Sometimes it is action, other times it is prayer.

For everyone, pray lovepray rain where the planet needs it; pray dryness where the globe is saturated. Pray balance in nature and the softening of the brutality in all our planet.

Pray love. Be love. Pray light. Be light. Trust in that which is greater than all of it. Trust in a greater good that will be revealed.

Notice I did not say pray for; I said Pray!

Know that you are not alone, you are love, you are loved, you are loveable forever. Practice kindness and compassion. Give love your attention. Release fear, release judgment, forgive that which you see and don’t understand.

Our God, no matter what name or flavor you call it, is a God of Love, of goodness. Practice your deepest, broadest beliefs and encompass the globe with your love, your faith, your trust.

That is what those who are believers in a greater good are called to be and to do.

So much love to our planet. So much love to our country. So much love to you, who are suffering, who are struggling to make sense out of senselessness. So much love to our Humanity.

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Innovation & Business

Whom Will Your Brand Serve?

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One thing that I’ve learnt in my decades in business is that if your company tries to help everyone, it will end up helping no one.

Maybe you’ve heard of the spray-and-pray method of marketing, in which a general message is created and distributed widely and randomly without regard for demographics.

In theory, especially to new business owners, this would seem like the best way to garner attention for your brand. However, in reality, it’s the worst plan.

Your ideal customers need something specific from your brand. They have particular likes and dislikes, and they have a problem to solve. If you’re not speaking directly to their pain, their problem, their needs and their preferences, they are going to pass right over your brand.

And, as you have probably already deducted, if you’re being vague and all-inclusive in your branding and marketing, you’re going to appeal to no one.

Here are some tips for narrowing your audience and your message, for better branding results:

  • Create an Ideal Customer Profile. Draw a picture of your ideal customer. Identify their gender, age, family situation, culture, career, hobbies, personality, religious affiliation…whatever is necessary in establishing who they are and why they need your brand. Give them a name if that helps you to get to know them and remember them.
  • Speak Directly to your Ideal Customer. In all communications, whether direct or fairly general, speak directly to this person. You want to appeal to others like them, so it makes sense to make everyone feel as if you’re speaking directly to them.
  • Know the Problem you’re Solving. Your ideal customer has a pain or a problem that you’re particularly skilled at solving. Know the anxiety, the discomfort, the secondary complications that come along with enduring this problem, so you can speak with empathy. Most business owners know this pain all too well, because they have come from this pain, learnt how to relieve it, and are now sharing their solution with others. Speak to your younger self, before you solved this problem.
  • Forget About Offending Others. I am not suggesting that you make offensive statements or blatantly exclude particular groups. I am, however, suggesting that you stop worrying about inadvertently offending anyone who is not your ideal customer. Remember, they will not benefit from what your brand is offering. Include everyone, and you will exclude those most important to your brand.
  • Vet Those Asking to Join your Groups. Whether it’s a closed Facebook group or a subscription-based online club, you have the right (and the obligation) to scrutinise anyone who wishes to join. I ask myself if the person will bring value to the group, if the group can serve their needs, if I expect them to engage with the other members…I even make sure they have a profile picture, rather than a random visual. Do this, and you will enhance the quality of your entire group, making it more attractive to your ideal customers.

I trust that these little pieces of advice will help you to get clear on whom you want to serve, and to then go forward with serving only them…to magnetise more of them to your brand. Because the more ideal customers you have associated with your brand, the more people like them they will attract to your brand…and the more credible, visible and profitable your brand will become.

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Events & Workshops

Spirit Guides with Steven & Amy North ft. Sandra Skender

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The Spirit Guide workshop with Steven & Amy North is an exciting opportunity to hear the love, passion & wisdom directly from Steven’s spirit guide, Amy North.

This workshop is a practical guide to all things Spirit Guides and how you can incorporate this unique and beautiful connection that everyone shares into the day-to-day lives and learn how we incorporated this connection and changed our lives.

This is an amazing opportunity to learn about Spirit Guides from a Spirit Guide directly. We will introduce you to techniques that will help improve your own communications, discover methods to merge with your spirit guide and to even channel them if you wish to explore that further.

We will share with you what we have been doing together to heal ourselves, to explore the extraordinary bond that is the spirit guide & incarnate connection.

Come embrace this connection and we will share with you techniques that will help you transform your own life like it has for ours.

You will also hear from Sandra Skender, A gifted Psychic/Medium on how she works and communicates with Spirit Guides and will provide information as to what she does to help people with her abilities.

Discover Amy North & Steven North on our website.

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