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June 2017

Life Changes

A simple ‘HELLO’

A simple ‘Hello’

 A simple ‘Hello’ seems ordinary enough doesn’t it?

In most cultures it is accepted as a greeting to show respect and acknowledgement of the other person.

Yet, it is becoming more apparent that some may actually feel intimidated or even feel obliged by a simple ‘Hello’.

‘Hello’ is a powerful word.

It can bring your joy when you feel somber.

Yet it can bring you intimidation when you are feeling insecure.

I have traveled to Italy and this sensational word is treated just as they treat their morning cafe’. Yes, it is a necessity in their culture to begin the day and continue throughout the day. A greeting of ‘Salve’, ‘Buon giorno’ and even ‘Buona sera’ are all part of the everyday language that is expressed freely. 

Yet, why is it that when I walk through the local shopping center and I feel another gaze at me, I respond with a simple ‘Hello’ they turn away or walk straight by as though they do not see me?

This is not the first time this experience has happened. Nor has it only happened to myself. It is unfortunately becoming another social epidemic that is suffocating our future generation. 

Say HELLO people, it is SIMPLE!

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Innovation & Business

Master Your Marketing-Mindset In 4 Simple Steps

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If your intention, your purpose for being in business is good, then you have no reason not to market yourself. If you are not happy with your personal marketing style and marketing in general, it’s time to get your marketing-mindset into gear. 

What we believe in our mind enables us to act, to create or to reach what we want to achieve, or it keeps us from getting there. Either way, our mind is very powerful, and it is always our choice how we use its might. 

Marketing Makes All The Difference

To market and not to market yourself is likely the difference between your business being known or not. Marketing is the difference between your mission being known and understood, and not. 

You need to have your marketing-mindset working for you instead of sabotaging you. 

Many of us have negative beliefs, consciously or unconsciously, which make us feel uneasy when it comes to marketing ourselves. Here’s the thing, if you are not comfortable with your personal brand’s presentation, your delivery can come across as sounding fake. Which may be precisely the impression you are hoping to avoid. Wouldn’t it be great to feel 100 percent comfortable with your personal brand and have the right marketing-mindset? 

How do you experience marketing in general? Are you aware how your marketing-mindset is programmed?

When people hear the word marketing, many think immediately of false promises, manipulative tactics, and selling for the sake of selling something. And many small businesses and solopreneurs state that they feel obliged to do that kind of marketing too, to make their business work. 

Your beliefs play a massive part in everything. If you have a mindset that is consciously or unconsciously holding you back, it can make any goal or vision stay on paper, instead of becoming a living reality. 

That’s because your mindset can affect the actions that you take (or don’t take) and the results that you get. 

What are limiting beliefs and where do they originate?

Limiting beliefs are those which constrain us in some way. 

Your mind works in a way that it takes on all beliefs that you’ve accepted willingly or without noticing and which your mind believes to be true. There is a belief system running in the background that continuously shapes how you think, feel and act. Limiting beliefs serve as filters of your reality that is shaped by our experiences. 

Our beliefs can be formed from a very young age and throughout our education and lifetime in all areas of our lives. 

You can notice it in your negative self-talk, when you catch yourself saying or thinking things such as: 

  • I cannot do this because
  • I am not good enough because…

If you find yourself repeating some phrase over and over in your mind chatter, you should realise that it’s a limiting belief that you have. The more you repeat it, the more your mind believes this is true. 

The good news is that once you are aware of the beliefs that aren’t supporting you in your business and marketing, you can choose to start to change them to supporting beliefs. 

You may hold some negative beliefs about marketing and branding, which may not be helping you, and which you are blissfully unaware of, i.e. you may think some or any of the following: 

  • Marketing is manipulative.
  • Marketing is pushy.
  • It is just about selling, regardless of whether the product or service is needed.
  • I am not an expert at marketing myself.
  • There are many others already offering the same services.
  • If I put myself out there, it seems ridiculous, not professional enough, etc.

Eliminating from whatever is blocking you from taking action and getting results is one of the best foundations for all your business work. 

How can you get rid of your mind’s limitations and create the right marketing-mindset?

  1. Become aware what belief gets in your way and acknowledge that you have this belief. Accept it’s just a belief; it’s not the truth!
  2. Ask, is this is really true? Or do you just believe it is true? Do some self-inquiry here. Mostly, you’ll find out it is not true for you anymore or just a perception of something you were made to believe.
  3. Choose to let got of this blocking thought and let it vanish.
  4. Choose what you want to believe instead. Play around and find what you want to believe that supports and serves you in reaching your marketing, business or life goals.

It is a simple as this! 

Believe you can, and you’re halfway there.

(Theodore Roosevelt)

I think this is a good starting point to accept and make use of your mind’s power because you shouldn’t underestimate the power of having a marketing-mindset that is working for you instead of sabotaging you.   

 
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Innovation & Business

Master Your Facebook Live – Top Tip #6

Yael Rose – Top Tip 6

Master Your Facebook Live

TOP TIP #6:

ENGAGE & CONNECT

Connection and interaction are the two things you really want to master in your Facebook ‘Lives’. Think of a face-to-face interaction, how would you do that effectively? And then, translate it online. Here a few tips that will help:

– Firstly, look them in the eyes. When you meet with someone in person, you will be looking them in the eye most of the time, right? So, in your ‘Live’, make sure to maintain eye contact as much as possible so your audience feels you are present with them.

– Acknowledge your viewers when somebody comments or likes your ‘Live’ don’t ignore them. Call their name and thank them for being there. They are giving you a piece of their precious time, so that’s the least you can do.

Remember that people love to be heard and seen. Make your viewers feel important, make them feel special – because they ARE!

I hope this helps.

Please let me know your thoughts below / if you have any questions or how are you getting on with your ‘Lives’

Yael xx

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Innovation & Business

Master Your Facebook Live – Top Tip #3

Yael Rose – Top Tip 3
Master Your Facebook Live
TOP TIP #3:
FORGET PERFECT!
OK this is a HUGE one when it comes to Facebook Live. I hear this all the time…‘What if I forget what to say?’, ‘What if I make a mistake?’.
Here is what I’ve learnt:
1. Perfect is boring
Ever watched a live talk show or the news and the presenter stumbled on their words? Wasn’t No one can go live and have everything be perfect. And who wants that anyway!
2. Mistakes make you human. Please don’t worry about making mistakes, or not looking perfect. Some of my most popular videos have been when my kids come in the frame, climb all over me, etc. I’m not saying you have to do that but get this: Not being perfect / making mistakes makes you human! And guess what? People trust human. And as you know – People do business with people they trust.
Hope this helps and as always let me know your thoughts, ‘yeah but’s’ or questions below.
Yael xx
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Innovation & Business

Master Your Facebook Live – Top Tip #2

Yael Rose – Top Tip 2
Master Your Facebook Live
 
TOP TIP #2 :
 
YOUR TITLE
 
The title of your broadcast is one of the most important parts of your Facebook ‘Live’.
If the subject doesn’t grab your audience, they won’t even tune in to watch in the first place.
So before you broadcast please consider for a few seconds – is the title relevant to my audience? Is it relevant to what I do? And to what I’m actually about to speak about?
Something I sometimes do is make it a little controversial / mysterious so it makes people curious. But of course I still keep it on-brand and relevant.
Also remember to make it short and sweet. Keep your entire life story for the actual ‘Live’ 😉
 
✨Take it further:
(AKA optional homework 😉
In the next couple of days notice ‘Lives’ that grabbed your attention and note down what they were titled. Remember not to copy others, as you want your own essence to come through. But do use this exercise for inspiration and noticing what works.✨
 
And questions, comments, I’d love to hear from you below or in private message. 💖
Good luck and let me know how you got on!!
 
Yael xx
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Personal Growth

Proud to be an HSP

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“The quieter you become, the more you are able to hear.” – Rumi

Do you consider yourself an extravert* or introvert? How about an HSP (highly sensitive person)?

After a lifetime of extraversion, I began drawing inward as I underwent extensive trauma recovery therapy. Having previously found energy in the company of others, I now sought solitude for safety and protection, renewal and replenishment.

Had I become an introvert? I lightheartedly referred to myself as an inextrovert, unsure of and curious about just what I really was. It’s not that I needed a label. I just wanted to understand myself better.

Exploring this further found me participating in a brief study held by Jacquelyn Strickland, LPC, HSP, titled Myers Briggs – HSP Overlay. By filling out the assessment and participating in two in-depth interviews via conference call, I had my answer… as a guideline, not a rule book. Most importantly, the exercise helped me make sense of my character traits, which allowed me to more fully understand and embrace my growing authentic wholeness.

Turns out I am an ESFJ (Extraversion, Sensing, Feeling, Judgment), with HSP overlay. Translated in a nutshell, I belong to a rare breed: the highly sensitive extrovert. With my own unique blend of strengths and weaknesses.

Strengths:

  • Strong Practical Skills – check!
  • Strong Sense of Duty – check!
  • Very Loyal – check!
  • Sensitive and Warm – check!
  • Good at Connecting with Others – check!

Weaknesses:

  • Worried about Their Social Status – I may have in the past. Not an issue for me now.
  • Inflexible – I used to be. Nothing like over six years of trauma recovery to loosen me up!
  • Reluctant to Innovate or Improvise – I used to hate change, then I came to embrace it.
  • Vulnerable to Criticism – I used to be, and it can still niggle. In his book The Four Agreements, author Don Miguel Ruiz instructs the reader to not take anything personally, that whatever anyone says is a reflection of their own reality. He goes on to note that this one agreement can be life changing. It was. And is.
  • Often Too Needy – Yep, I saw myself there, though I’d rather remove the word “Too” as I never saw myself as a nagger or stalker(!). Now, I know to ask for support when I need it.
  • Too Selfless – Definitely. This was all connected with my trauma. Praise God, with the help of therapy and the book Boundaries by Henry Cloud, I SO got over that.

HSP Overlay

Until this experience, I was what’s called a socialized HSP, meaning that I had adapted throughout  my childhood, adolescence and adulthood to survive and often excel in the dynamics in which I was surrounded. The thing is, I often felt different, like I somehow didn’t quite fit. A round peg in a square hole. The little girl that is me didn’t have an authentic voice. She had a survival voice.

Allowing myself to transform into an authentic HSP, I learned the value and importance of giving myself the space and time to refresh and renew in solitude so that I could enjoy being in the company of others. My strong startle reflex and sensitivity to my environment, especially to loud or competing sounds and harsh light made sense.

Understanding myself has helped me prepare for and frame my experiences in such a way as to fully support myself. With great love and compassion.

For example, on choosing a restaurant, I consider the acoustics, steering away from loud places, opting for quieter venues. Finding myself in a loud crowded space, I chose to refrain from trying to talk/shout above the noise. On internet conference calls, when background noises distract me silly, I kindly ask others to mute themselves. I pace myself in my commitments, saying “no” much more readily than in the past. I pay attention to how I feel, both emotionally and physically, and I give myself extra time between tasks, errands, appointments, etc. I go slow. Slowly. I go slow.

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When I find myself in overwhelm, I take action to reduce it instead of ignoring and pushing through it. That might mean clearing my schedule of commitments, opting for what truly nourishes me.

Most significantly, I work with a business coach who, being a successful HSP Entrepreneur, caters specifically to the HSP. Spending time with her and other HSPs via a “Mastermind” group brings a sense of belonging, of peace. The peace of self-love, of total acceptance of and support for the whole of me. I’m home in my heart and soul. Which helps me grow in my business.

I’m so thankful for the strength and fortitude with which I’ve been blessed through my healing journey. For the courage, patience and perseverance to trust, even when things go awry. Owning my sensitivity is a beautiful way of owning my own power as well, which in turn allows me to shift my thinking from fear-based to love-based.

And that, in turn, opens my heart and soul and my life, creating space for more blessings, more abundance. It brings me into alignment with my highest self, what God intends for me. Something we’re all meant to know and experience.

 

Who or what are you? Are you on a path to your truest highest self?

 

*I always thought this word was spelled extrovert. As I was writing my book From Fear to Love How Creativity Saved My Life and Will Change Yours for the Better, I googled to determine the correct version. This result takes the cake: “Folklore has it that when Carl Jung was once asked which was the correct spelling—ExtrAvert or ExtrOvert—Jung’s secretary wrote back something like, ‘Dr. Jung says it’s ExtrAverted, because ExtrOverted is just bad Latin.'”

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Retail Therapy

When Should I Speak Out

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Do you ever feel like you are holding back.  

You are not SPEAKING OUT

You are not saying the words you know you should.

You are feel inside that you know what to say and how you should say it but when it comes to the CRUNCH you just DON’T !

I have had this happen to me many times.

SOMETIMES I am just not sure if it’s worth saying what I was thinking.

I am afraid it will just not be appreciated, or it will be misinterpreted.  

In this moment the emotion I felt inside that created the language, the passion of what I wanted to say,  is not there any more.

I now feel, ” is it really worth it ?” 

My voice just gets stuck inside my head or it just fizzles off.

Its no longer important.   Or I find myself saying ” I just will say it next time”.  But that moment doesn’t seem to come back another time.

Sometimes it’s  important that we just hold back our words because they can be inappropriate or just purely damaging.

Other times our words could be the creative power that will ignite a new beginning.  

How do we know?

For me I have three thoughts that I will consider before I speak out words.

  1. Will I gain if I do speak out?
  2. Will speaking out be self focused or other focused or both?
  3. What will I loose if I just don’t say anything at all?

Did you know:

Vocal tone can often effect the way the words we speak are heard.  

Vocal tone is attached to our emotions and so the way you feel will effect how you are heard and the results you get from others.

Did you know you can use your vocal tone to convey your message more powerfully when you know how to access your whole voice.  

When you know how to use your high and low frequencies in your voice you will speak more effortlessly, less fatigue, more at ease and you will be able to convey messages in a more powerful way.

Get some free resources to help you with your vocal tone.

Here is some research recently conducted: 

Charismatic Leaders use their voice to convey messages
“By analyzing the harmonics of pitch, frequency and timbre, researchers at University of California, Los Angeles are discovering how charismatic public speakers use their voices to dominate, rouse and influence a large audience.  You have the capacity to shape your voice in a way that makes people perceive you as a leader,” said UCLA acoustic scientist Rosario Signorello, who conducted the charisma experiments. He measured the frequencies, cadences, intensity and duration of vocal qualities with the meaning of the words.

Check out the research here 

 “The voice is a tool that can be trained,” he said. “Singers and actors train their voices to reach higher or lower frequencies. A leader-speaker should do the same.”   Dr. Signorello

If you want to find out how you can have a confident voice that does not hesitate and can be backed up with emotion that can help you be congruent and authentic in your communication Lets Talk

Find out more here about interpersonal communication mentoring program. I hope you enjoyed reading this article and I look forward to your feedback.  ‘

Maria Pellicano

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Natural Medicine

Sound Medicine has Arrived

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Around the world, there is an increasing acceptance of sound therapy for healing and expanding the consciousness.

An extraordinary human being, Edgar Cayce once said: “Sound is the medicine of the future.” His words are now a reality. Sound Medicine has arrived.

He would not be surprised to see that a growing number of health professionals are using sound therapy as medicine, for ailments that include post-operative healing.

Utilised since the beginning of recorded history in many cultures, in today’s world, these ancient sound traditions are being used for group sessions. And for individuals, sound therapy is gaining new ground as an added tool for the restoration of wellbeing.

The sound used may be shamanistic drumming from Mongolia and Native America, singing bowls from Tibet and the Didgeridoo of the Indigenous Australian. Interestingly, Indigenous Australians are the first known culture to heal with sound.

‘Indigenous Australians are the first known culture to heal with sound’

The State of Vibration

The fundamental principle of sound healing is Resonance, a word used when describing the frequencies of vibration. These frequencies are used as a transformative and healing modality. In every organ, bone, tissue, and so on, we are in a state of vibration.

With research into binaural frequencies, since their discovery in 1839 by German experimenter, Heinrich Wilhelm Dove, the application for sound therapy has exploded. Specialists are using it to treat ailments while students are using it to help with focus and study.

Today’s healing music modalities use various frequencies such as Solfeggio-Binaural Frequencies, and these are included in Heart Activation Music. There are also ‘brainwave entrainment’ frequencies, which assist with sleep and healing DNA: the list grows, as there is a wide range of these healing frequencies available today.

Binary sound frequencies are important within the Heart Activation Music because they help unlock something energetically, and this ‘something’ will be different for each person.

Profound Results

It is widely known that sound therapy can be used for stress reduction or to facilitate meditation. But for some people, the effects may include unlocking deeply entrenched issues, memories or patterns, and may help them work through blocks that were previously unknown. Results can be profound.

The latest quantum physics theory, known as String Theory, suggests that absolutely everything in the Universe, all the particles that make up matter and forces is comprised of minute vibrating fundamental strings. All these objects have a Resonant pattern associated to them. In simple terms, the physical Universe is built of sound vibrations.

More than 100 years ago, Nikola Tesla referred to a non-Hertzian energy (without frequencies), Scalar, and in the 1920s, Albert Einstein referenced Scalar energy. This energy is not electromagnetic and is comprised of pure zero-point energy. The Scalar energy form has the ability to carry information and is a field of energy systems that is alive. Scalar energy is vibrant and dynamic and has always been in existence within the Universe.

According to world-renowned crystal expert, workshop leader, and author, Judy Hall: “Scalar waves activate the meridians and facilitate healing at the energetic interface between spirit and matter.”  

In addition to sound therapy, crystals have been used in healing therapies throughout known history. The energetic properties of crystals are harnessed to influence the energy field to return to a specific vibrational healthy frequency. Different crystals are used in these therapies because they each have a distinct unique consciousness as well as resonant frequencies. Sound therapy with crystals offers two layers of healing energy.

There are various sounds within sound therapy that can be utilised with other healing modalities.

‘Scalar waves activate the meridians and facilitate healing at the energetic interface between spirit and matter’- Judy Hall

Call in Higher Powers

“Some will clear energy, some will assist with healing, and there are some that help open the mind. Additionally, there are sounds that help call in higher powers, such as the Ascended Masters. These sounds will help with everything: healing, twin flame union, past life recognition, accessing higher consciousness: there is no end to what may be achieved with sound therapy.

In Heart Activation Music Therapy, there is an integration of many aspects of current sound therapy modalities, as well as the integration of natural Scalar energies. These energies are coded vibrations consisting of many messages that can help a listener transform his or her own life.

Through the facilitation of crystal energies, binaural frequencies, Scalar energies, coded vibrations and music sounds a person can experience a quantum and multi-dimensional healing.

You can discover more about the Heart Activation Music through our Group Sessions in Perth, Western Australia. Check out the new Steven North website for further information.

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Wisdom & Spirit

Is Balance A Challenge? The Reason Why Is You’re Looking At It Wrong.

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All this talk about balance these days… everywhere you look there’s another IG post or lengthy webinar trying to inspire you to achieve a life of balance.

First of all, what does BALANCE look like to you?

It’s a somewhat abstract concept when applied to life, isn’t it? The word balance means a condition in which things are equally distributed.

Seriously, give me a break, equally distribute life? … just how could you possibly do that? Evenly distribute your life?

Or, more accurately; how do you now RE-REDISTRIBUTE your life evenly?

Let’s see .. “Ok, I spend 8-10 hours a day working and only maybe that many hours a WEEK spending quality time with my family, I will now spend half my time at work and half my time playing twister with the kids.”

Mmmmm, that’s not going to work. When do you sleep? Eat? Shower? Clean? Do yoga? Walk the dog? Go to the bathroom?

So now what? Now you RE-REDISTRIBUTE your life so that everything gets an equal amount of time, effort, emotion and attention…. That doesn’t even sound good in theory! Obviously you don’t need the same amount of time for brushing your teeth as you do for sleeping, that’s just silly. But that’s what a (literally) balanced life would be like.

Let’s review; by definition, a life of balance would cause all sorts of problems in every aspect of your life. But, the concept still feels really good and the idea of a life of balance is empowering! So, we strive and we reach and we spread ourselves thin, trying to achieve what we think is “balance”.

Here’s the thing… By striving so hard to create balance, we create imbalance.  

As a verb, balance means to keep in a steady position (now we’re cookin’!), which leads me to the concept of BEING balanced, balancing YOU. Not “creating a life of balance” or “striving” to achieve it or scrutinizing yourself, your priorities and the way you live your life because they don’t LOOK balanced.

Look at yoga. In tree pose, we stand on one foot with the other leg bent and the arch of that foot against the standing leg’s thigh (like a flamingo). Arms can be out like branches or in front of you, with hands in prayer or wherever you choose. This is both one of the easiest and hardest poses in yoga. As with any yoga pose, the stronger you are in it and the deeper you go in your commitment to it, determines how steady you are, for how long and when you must come out of the pose.

So, in tree pose, you are balancing, but the pose itself is not “evenly distributed”. One side of your body is doing one thing and the other side is doing another. Your ability to stand there balancing is due to adjustments made within your body and mind.  You chose to make your body fit into this pose with (relative) ease and hold steady.

I know you know where I’m going with this…

Guys, your life is never – I repeat – NEVER going to be “balanced.”

IT’S NOT.

And that’s ok! In fact, that’s great!  But you know what can be balanced? That’s right.

YOU.

What do you need, as a vibrant soul in this human experience, what do you need to feel and be steady? Answers such as; “I need more money to feel and be a steady being” are not allowed. Know why? Because a steady, balanced person always has what they need. Not because they bought it, but because they make adjustments within their body and mind to fit into life with ease (the ease part takes a lot of practice!)

Some simple ways to dive into becoming a person of balance are:

  • Start a gratitude journal. Every day, at whatever time works best for you (but ideally the same time each day) jot down a few things that you are particularly grateful for that day. Put it in perspective.
  • Speaking of gratitude, make a habit of thanking people. When someone lets you pass them on the highway, I don’t care if they can see you or not, say thank you. And wave, just in case they do see you.
  • Do things to prompt gratitude in others.  Hold a door open or compliment someone. Feed that good vibes machine!
  • Choose your battles. Do you have a teenager sneaking out, late at night? Yea, address that. Does he or she forget to turn off the TV once in awhile? That’s likely not worth an argument. Does your neighbor have tons of unsightly junk on their yard that’s a turnoff for potential buyers of your home for sale? Ok, you should probably work on that. Does your neighbor’s lawn look like they skipped a week or two mowing? That’s just not something worth your time or energy.  In choosing your battles, you’re accepting things for what they are, which is really good practice. You’re also creating a more peaceful environment.
  • Take a look at what makes you feel good. What keeps you steady? Do more of that.
  • Learn to say no. If you want to be balanced as a person, you have to look out for yourself

At the end of the day, what we all want is to be happy. Grasping for and/or achieving the pie in the sky“balanced life” will not give you happiness. YOU are going to give you happiness. You are going to trust this life and stand strong no matter what it throws at you.  

What I dream of is an art of balance. – Henri Matisse

 
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